Ray J’s ‘Single and Married’ Stance Sparks Outrage

It seems Ray J is once again making headlines for all the wrong reasons. Despite being married to Princess Love and having children together, his recent public declarations and behavior suggest he’s living by a different set of rules. An op-ed piece argues that Ray J’s actions, including his infamous “single and married” statement and alleged infidelity, represent a profound disrespect to his wife and a pattern of behavior seen in many Black women who have defended similar actions from other male celebrities.

A Pattern of Disrespect

The article points to Ray J’s history, from his infamous sex tape with Kim Kardashian to his tumultuous reality TV relationship with Teairra Mari and his ongoing marital issues with Princess Love. Despite seemingly settling down with marriage and fatherhood, Ray J’s alleged cheating, public drama, and dishonesty have continued, leaving many to question his commitment and maturity.

The author expresses embarrassment for Ray J’s children, who will one day witness their father’s public antics, and for his parents, who seemingly raised him with better values. Despite his family background and his sister Brandy’s superstardom, Ray J continues to exhibit low morals and a lack of shame for his actions, treating his marriage more like a PR stunt than a sacred union.

‘Single and Married’ and Public Displays

The recent “single and married” declaration made on stage, in front of thousands, is highlighted as a prime example of this disrespect. The article argues that regardless of relationship status or the presence of other partners, legally married individuals are not single. This sentiment is further fueled by Ray J parading his current girlfriend, Shila, on major platforms like The Breakfast Club, shortly after expressing a desire to reconcile with his wife.

The piece also touches on Ray J’s appearance on The Breakfast Club with Shila, where he seemingly aired grievances with Dr. Umar Johnson while also discussing his affections for Sukihana, a woman he is not supposed to be involved with. His response, “Suki is ALWAYS with me,” defending a relationship he shouldn’t be in, further underscores the perceived disrespect towards his marriage.

Accountability for Men, Not Just ‘Side Chicks’

While acknowledging that some women may choose to be involved with married men, the op-ed firmly places the primary blame on the men who engage in infidelity. The author argues that “side chicks only exist where they are allowed to,” shifting the focus from shaming other women to holding cheating men accountable. Ray J is presented as a representative figure for many men, like Future, Paul Pearce, and Offset, who allegedly drain the spirits of Black women who often feel compelled to defend them.

Black women, you can let go! Stop praying, hoping, holding on to the idea of love that does not hold you back but holds you back. — Op-Ed Author

The article concludes with a message of empowerment for Black women, urging them to recognize when relationships have reached their expiration date and to stop trying to fix men who are unwilling to change themselves. It suggests that Princess Love, like other women who have endured similar situations, is likely exhausted and that it’s time to let go.