Naturi Naughton: Keeping the Spark Alive

Naturi Naughton, known for her captivating roles, is also sharing her insights on keeping the romance alive in marriage. As a newlywed herself, the actress understands the importance of intentionality when it comes to maintaining passion and intimacy, especially after saying ‘I do.’

Fighting Routine, Embracing Spontaneity

Naughton, who married Xavier “Two” Lewis in April 2022, acknowledges that routine can be a major hurdle in married life. ‘Now that I’m married, you do have to fight the urge and resistance of routine and just getting into a rep,’ she told Madamenoire. To combat this, she and her husband prioritize intentional connection.

Their strategy includes regular date nights, often on Fridays, and embracing spontaneity. Whether it’s a staycation, exploring different travel destinations, or hitting up clubs in different parts of their city like Harlem, they aim to keep things fresh. ‘That unpredictable nature of us dating makes it fun again,’ Naughton explained, emphasizing that their designated date nights are crucial for pouring into each other without it feeling like a chore.

The Power of Mental and Emotional Intimacy

Romance, Naughton believes, begins long before the bedroom. She credits her and her husband’s mentors, Montel Jordan and his wife Kristin Hudson, for helping them stay grounded. Spiritual connection plays a vital role, with activities like praying and attending church together. Even shared challenges, like working out together, create a powerful bond.

‘It’s kind of hot and sexy, and it also makes me feel close to him,’ she shared about running together. ‘Doing something together that’s challenging definitely bonds you, I think, spiritually, as well as physically.’

Foreplay: Touch, Whispers, and Asking for What You Need

When it comes to foreplay, Naughton highlights the importance of both physical touch and verbal connection. She’s a big fan of massages, noting that her husband is skilled at easing discomfort, starting with her feet and moving upwards. ‘Next thing I know, it’s a wrap,’ she chuckled.

Beyond touch, Naughton emphasizes the power of words. ‘Foreplay is also in your mind, like how you speak to me, the things you whisper in my ear.’ Crucially, she encourages women, especially Black women, to overcome any shame and clearly communicate their needs and desires in the bedroom. ‘It’s okay to direct or redirect… You should never feel ashamed to say what you like and what you need. I think that empowers your partner, too.’

The Nightstand Essential: Coconut Oil

For couples looking to add a little spice, Naughton offers a simple, accessible suggestion for their nightstand: coconut oil. ‘Get you a jar,’ she urged. ‘Have it on the nightstand. You don’t need no lubrication. That’ll do it.’