Wes & Dawn Moore: Love, Leadership, and Choosing Wisely

What does it take to lead effectively while also nurturing a strong personal life? Maryland’s Governor Wes Moore and First Lady Dawn Moore recently shared their insights at the ExcelerateHER leadership summit, offering a powerful look at how love and leadership intertwine.

A Foundation Built on Service and Love

First Lady Dawn Moore’s journey into public life wasn’t accidental. Raised in a family deeply rooted in civil service, she developed a passion for people and community early on. Her career in government was driven by this commitment, long before she met the man who would become the only sitting Black governor in the United States.

Their meeting sounds like fate. A mutual friend connected them, leading to an initial awkward phone call and then coffee. Reflecting on their early days, Governor Moore was captivated by Dawn’s brilliance, her way of thinking, her dreams, and her strong focus on family and legacy. He also expressed admiration for her success, noting he was raised by strong women and wasn’t intimidated by powerful Black women.

Navigating Public Life as a Couple

When Wes decided to run for governor, Dawn, like many close to him, approached the decision with careful consideration, understanding the significant impact it would have on their family. Once committed, she focused on defining her role as First Lady and, crucially, maintaining their home as a sanctuary.

During challenging times, like a significant crisis Wes faced during his governorship, Dawn made a conscious effort to be the supportive wife and mother he needed, ensuring their home provided peace. Governor Moore echoed this sentiment, stating that his wife’s peace is paramount to his own well-being.

The Art of Communication and Deliberate Effort

Their marriage thrives on deliberate effort and thoughtful communication. Dawn shared a unique strategy: writing letters to Wes when emotions run high. This allows her to articulate her feelings clearly without the intensity of immediate emotional expression, ensuring her message is heard effectively.

She also highlighted Wes’s willingness to apologize as a key quality that strengthens their bond over time. This mutual respect and commitment to understanding are vital components of their enduring partnership.

Do not select people who do not love you. It doesn’t matter if you elected leaders. It doesn’t matter if it’s your partner. If they do not love you, do not select them. — First Lady Dawn Moore

A Powerful Message for All

Addressing the room full of accomplished Black women executives, Dawn Moore delivered a resonant piece of advice: “Do not select people who do not love you.” She emphasized that this principle applies not only to personal relationships but also to the leaders we choose to support.

Her words served as a powerful reminder that surrounding ourselves with love and genuine support is fundamental, whether in our personal lives or in the broader political landscape. The Moores’ story is a testament to the strength found in partnership and the importance of choosing wisely.